Contrary to the convention that it is the guy who should propose first, I firmly take the opposite stand, in view of Gender Equality and Women Upliftment. Let me explain myself. The fact that women protested their being relegated to the traditional role of a housewife serves me well in explaining my contention. This protest is supported with ideals like financial independence, gender equality etc. The fact of the matter is that women should be allowed to do what they want to. Liberty is the underlying and underpinning ideal. It’s not like the ones who are housewives are blots on the face of women upliftment and the ones who aren’t are paradigms for the same.
Similarly, tradition is as good/bad a reason (strong or namesake) for women to become housewives as it is for men to propose first. To use tradition when it’s advantageous (proposal) and discard it (housewife fuss) when it’s not is double standards. Thus, women upliftment should be bolstered, in principle, with more and more women taking the initiative to propose; and not wait for men (who, by the way, never reach their expectations) to wish their way into a battle which they never win, a.k.a `a relation’. Another instance of self-contradiction by the fairer sex: the scanty population of theirs at IITs is the reason for enjoying such an elite status. Come a time with more number of girls in the campus and this elite status per girl is lost/reduced. Be careful what you wish for.
2 comments:
I would love to be in that rare scenario(who wouldn't!)of a girl proposing first but the housewife thing was not something the girls wanted and so it has subsided whereas this is something we need to protest about and they won't give a damn if it remains the same.
In the proposal thing women give up their love if he didn't approach so they are accepting the trade off between ego and losing your love.(sad that they choose ego but we can't complain, its their choice)
Whereas we, in the name of protesting can stop proposing but can we? We are too fascinated by her that our egos vanish and we keep up the tradition. So, this tradition will end if we are stubborn which we won't be anyway :P
1. Some girls might want the housewife thing. (which is secure and peaceful). I have seen a good no. of them myself.
2. The tradition will end if we are stubborn (as u said) or if they start proposing first REALIZING that it is more beneficial to them than us :D
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